Being a Badass BossMom
By Emily Harrington, Boss Bitch Extraordinaire
For anyone who doesn’t know me, I am a mom of two girls, both under two years old, and I am the face behind @MillennialBossMoms. I have a career working with tech start-ups and I am passionate about re-defining what it means to be a working mom. For two years now, I have been blogging about life as a working mom. My husband and I chose to take the not so common approach to parental leave with our first daughter, and I went to work while he stayed home. I have always been career driven, and despite the challenges, the mom guilt, and the shocking amount of mom shaming I received over this decision, it made sense for our family. I have become passionate about building a community that supports women for building a business or having a career while navigating motherhood and family life.
Recently I was asked to describe what it means to be a Badass BossMom. I have written all kinds of tips and about my experience bringing babies into the workplace(www.MillennialBossMoms.com), but if I am being totally honest, it is part of my identity that I didn’t want to lose after having kids. The business world is somewhere I can feel confident, appreciated, and intelligent.
After my first, I was determined not to lose that side of myself, and for a whole bunch of reasons, I went back to work after 4 months. At the time I was still breastfeeding and pumping, which presented a set of challenges I wasn’t prepared for (have you ever tried to explain a pumping schedule to a group of middle aged men?) But I was determined to make it work.
The biggest challenge I faced, which I’m sure every mom does, is going back to work isn’t the same. Whether people realize it or not, they see you differently, and value your dependability and your opinions differently than before you were a mom. In some cases this can be a good thing, but in many, your worth as an employee and a business woman is lessened when you have kids.
This is where blogging has come into play in my world, and where starting a business, or getting involved in Network Marketing companies come into play for a lot of women. We need an outlet that understands the constant juggling of running a household while trying to still be a badass career woman. We need something that gives us a connection to the outside world and makes us feel like an intelligent, contributing member of society.
It is only since having my second baby and now extending my maternity past 4 months (how that happened is a bit of a wild story best shared over wine), that I am realizing that I don’t HAVE to be in my office to call myself a Boss Mom. I can put my focus into supporting other badass working moms and having important conversations while I am up to my eyeballs in diapers and running on zero sleep. Supporting other working moms is more than just liking a Facebook post or even buying from their small business, it’s about having important conversations and helping to promote small businesses. It is about acknowledging and attempting to do way with the invisible line that sometimes exists between working moms and stay at home moms. It is saying that it’s ok to want to be a working mom, it’s ok to not want to be with your kids 24/67. It's ok to follow your dreams while being a good mom.
For any of you Dope Mom's still reading this, here are my suggestions as we tackle the world of business while raising our babies
- Don’t be afraid to push the boundaries, in 2019 (almost 2020), there are very few reasons why we have to stress over last minute childcare or miss opportunities because we have babies in tow. If baby needs to tag along, or you need to work within a specific time frame (i.e. I do not take BossMom calls until after bedtime), say so!
- Give yourself permission to NOT feel guilty, whether you work by choice or by necessity, give yourself permission to let go of the mom guilt. Your babies will be fine, and one day they will appreciate everything you have done for them.
- Take advantage of your village, whether you are searching Dope Mom's for advice at 3 am, or calling on family to help out, take advantage of your village. We can’t do it all, and the sooner we are ok with this idea, the easier it is to ask for help and divide our attention as necessary.
If you ever want to chat about anything related to being a working mom, please reach out, especially in the middle of the night, late night feedings are when you get my full attention ☺ It is also when I write blog posts .